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Last Updated on October 18, 2021 by Canny Costumes
Bachelorette parties are a fun way to create memories with friends, celebrate the upcoming nuptials, and give the bride-to-be a much-needed break from wedding planning. A destination bachelorette party brings this wedding tradition to the next level, letting the bridal party kick up their heels in a new and exciting locale. Before you dive head first into planning, read these bachelorette party dos and don’ts.
- DON’T: Try to plan the bachelorette party on your own.
- DO: Delegate tasks to other bridesmaids.
It may be traditional for the maid of honor to plan the bachelorette party, but you can’t plan an entire destination event on your own. Instead of stressing out over every minor detail, ask the other bridesmaids to take on specific tasks. If one bridesmaid is a huge foodie, put her in charge of finding the best restaurants in your destination. If there’s a crafty bridesmaid, let her design, create, and send out the video invitations and itineraries.
- DON’T: Plan a trip your friends can’t afford.
- DO: Ask attendees about their budget before you choose a destination.
It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of planning a bachelorette party. After all, this is the bride’s last time as a single woman and you want to go all out. But you’ll only be disappointed if you plan a destination event that not everyone can attend. So unless you’re footing the entire bill — flights, hotels, dinners, and drinks included — you’ll need to set a budget everyone can manage.
Talk to each attendee privately about her ideal budget. Once you have the numbers, plan your trip according to the lowest budget to ensure that all the bride-to-be’s favorite ladies will be there. Don’t forget to include the cost of paying for the bride-to-be in the total cost.
- DON’T: Hire adult entertainment without consulting the bride-to-be.
- DO: Ask the bride-to-be what kind of bachelorette party she wants.
While a surprise stripper might sound like a great idea, unless you know your friend definitely wants a little risqué fun, it’s best to skip this bachelorette party cliché. Every relationship has different boundaries, and the last thing you want is to make the bride-to-be uncomfortable or put her in a situation that could call the wedding into question.
Instead of spending a lot of money on an event the bride-to-be might not enjoy, talk to her about her vision for the bachelorette party and let her ideas inform your planning. If the bride-to-be wants a relaxing weekend at the beach, it doesn’t matter if you’re itching for a rager in Vegas.
- DON’T: Post every photo on social media.
- DO: Wait to share fun (and flattering!) photos that all partygoers approve of.
Sharing pictures on social media not only distracts from the fun at hand, your photos also could embarrass the bachelorette or other attendees. Make sure everyone can let loose by holding back on sharing and tagging photos until the party’s over and everyone has given the go-ahead.
- DON’T: Get so excited about the party that you forget responsibilities at home.
- DO: Make a preparation checklist to help everyone prepare for the trip.
Few things are more fun than jet-setting off with your oldest friends for a weekend of reminiscing, bonding, and pure, unbridled fun. But if you don’t take the right precautions before you go, your trip could be capped off by a whole lot of stress.
Make sure everyone has paid their bills or scheduled automatic payments, put mail delivery on hold, arranged for pet care, and contacted their bank if it’s an international destination. Remind attendees to secure their homes before the party. An empty home is a target for thieves, so it’s important to make sure everyone’s homes are locked up and being monitored while you’re gone. Distributing a prep checklist is an easy way to make sure everyone is ready to go on time.
Now that you know what not to do, it’s time to start planning the girls getaway of a lifetime. Good luck!